Them: “Girl you should get a job. You know, just in case.”
Me: “Just in case what? God keeps blessing me?”
Boy I tell you. People will tell you real quick what to do with your life, won’t they? When they ain’t got the slightest clue what to do with their own!!
Didn’t really know that some people were checking my purse and my pockets of what I have and what I don’t have. Or should I say, what I should have. What I need and what I don’t need. The funny thing is, the same people that will give me advice, is the same people I am positively sure wouldn’t lend a helping hand, ya know, if the, ‘just in case became a case. (Hmmm.)
Whatever.
The point I am trying to make is this here. Don’t worry about me, mines, or my job title. Don’t worry what I gots and what I ain’t got! (NO TYPO.) Mmm.. k! My resume is off the charts. In many forms. In many aspects. And it ain’t got nothing to do with a job.
Ok?
Ok.
First off, “God is within her, she will not fail.” And yes, I do believe that! Whole heartedly.
Second thing. If my husband says I don’t have to work. I AIN’T. But don’t only consider a 9-5, clocking in a job or a career. For some folks, that’s all they have. What you don’t know, won’t hurt you.
Third! I have been broke as a homeless crackhead joke. And now I drive a BMW. Now, in real terms, that doesn’t mean anything at the end of the day. God knows. I am very much aware, too much aware, that one day you can have nothing, and then one day you can have it all. AND VICE VERSA! What I’m saying is this! When you want something, and you put your mind to it, you will have it. Point. Blank. and Period. Ain’t NOTHING that a prayer and some hard work ain’t never done for me. Face bowed down and feet in the dirt. When you sweat so hard in the grind you can taste the salt. If you must know, everything I have now, I had and could have before my husband said I didn’t have to work. Only an insecure woman feels like a job or money speaks volumes for who she is. Don’t feel sorry for me! I feel sorry for you! If money is all you have to offer. You need to holla at Shaun T, and dig deeper! I am more than comfortable staying at home, while my man, my husband collects the check and gets the coins. BECAUSE I KNOW I CAN PULL MY OWN WEIGHT. BEEN THERE, AND DONE THAT. AND WILL DO IT AGAIN IF I HAVE TOO. WHETHER IM WORKING IN THE WHITE HOUSE OR THE DRIVE THRU, I WORKS HARD.
Mmm…k?
Mmm…K!
As I always say, for those who know me know, I am humble and grateful. Because I have never been in a position to sit at home, raise my child, and blog all day, nor did I ever think I would be BLESSED too. I look at my situation as a true blessing. I prayed for this. And only a few really know what I went through before this! I absolutely love being a stay at home mom. I don’t miss a beat with my daughter! That’s an honor for me, and my princess. I am forever grateful for this opportunity. I am very aware that it could be any other way. I don’t know who said a working woman was only considered a ‘boss.’ Whatever that means. I myself can do without the labels when it comes to identifying myself. These days seems like Naomi is the only boss around here. Seems like I work for her. Ha-ha.
I know that things can change in a blink of an eye. The difference a day can make.
One thing that I use to do, that I refuse to do now, is speak unhealthy, unwarranted, unwanted things in and over my life. Life and death is in the power of the tongue. (And.) As a man thinketh, so is he. AND I AIN’T THINKING NOTHING! Not a dog on thing!
I can’t say what will or won’t happen to me. But I ain’t worried about what if. I am happy with and about what is! Ain’t nobody got time to be worried about what can happen. How you living? A lot of things can happen, so what do you mean? All I know is, I won’t speak it over myself or my family to benefit someone else’s, anyone else’s opinion.
It is so amazing to me how a woman is defined now a days, based on her job title or, or whatever.
I’m assuming from that bogus, absent minded comment that I’ve heard more than the fingers I have on my hands. And I pay full price for my fill-ins. I have all ten fingers.
In other words what people really want to just come flat out and say is, I need to get a job, ya know. Hustle money up so if all hell breaks loose in my marriage, I’ll be straight. Straight meaning, have my own money. From my intelligence, that’s what I take from that.
Too bad I don’t live my life, or my marriage on the what ifs of what could go wrong based on someone else’s thoughts, and for fake concerns of what I need to do and how I need to be doing it. And yes, I said for fake. Counterfeit, not real, phony! Please tell me what FOOL would get married only to prepare for the worse to happen. I know they say for better or for worse, but dang. I would have never got married if I said, I do, and then after the honeymoon I had to prepare for just in case. Do people, we’ll do women really do that? School me please. If so, I ain’t attending that class!
My gosh. What the world chile!
“Yeah girl! I’m getting married. I am so happy. Life is great. I know he will eventually cheat on me. But it’s cool though.” Who? Not I. Not me. I don’t know what everyone else is doing. But that ain’t my trend, not my style.
Also, for the record, I don’t believe all men cheat. I wouldn’t have gotten married if I did. Let alone date a man with the mentality of knowing eventually I would get cheated on. At the end of the day I would only be cheating myself more than anything. If I dated, got married, to only expect a man to cheat on me, how much respect would I have for myself? Like, do people have any dignity for themselves anymore??! Woman holler really quick that all men cheat, but stay wanting one. That’s and oxymoron like no otha! That’s like me asking my best friend for money, and knowing its counterfeit. But I’m trying to go to the store and really buy something! DO PEOPLE REALLY THINK BEFORE THEY SPEAK!? Folks be talking loud, very loud, and saying absolutely nothing!
Now, this may come across as cocky or arrogant. (Chuckles.) Not even close. (To know me is to love me.) I come from a humble place with everything single thing I said. However, I will defend myself and my situation and my choices to the fullest when I hear nonsense as such. I am just a woman who believes in what I did. I believe in my marriage and my man, AND heck, I believe in MYSELF! Until I am shown otherwise!
Oh, yeah, by the way. Saying all men cheat is like saying, women don’t cheat. Why isn’t anyone running around telling my husband to stop doing all he does for me, just in case. See how people want to pick and choose ya down fall?! Ya see what people say evil against you out loud!? So, can you can only imagine what people pray against you in silence! I’m telling you I pray against those things, THOSE PEOPLE every day, multiple times a day! Shoot! I don’t play that. I really don’t. I never think for one second that everyone who smiles in my face is genuine. Everyone that ask questions isn’t concerned, but more so nosey! Whether they be family or friends. At least you know what to expect from ya foes. ‘Everybody that’s riding with you ain’t for you! Let the gas run out and see who helps you push!!!’
Can we say discernment!!!
NEVER! EVER! BASE YOUR LIFE DECISIONS ON ADVICE FROM PEOPLE WHO DON’T HAVE TO DEAL WITH THE RESULTS OF YOUR DECSION!
I’m Just Saying…