Close your legs.
That’s right I said it. Close ya legs. And open up ya mind. And no I’m not talking about opening ya mind to a book, which that wouldn’t hurt either. BUT, I’m saying open your mind to what really matters in life. And it isn’t sex, money, and men, especially other folks men. I don’t know how simple I can put it. You don’t have to have a college degree to be a genius. So this message is for anybody who is settling. Or do you not know what that means exactly? When you live a certain lifestyle you may think because you’ve won a few battles that you will graciously win the war. WRONG! Sleeping with other peoples spouses, man or woman does not make you a trophy and I can guarantee you you won’t earn one either.
Listen, I know everyone may not want to be married and that’s fine. Whatever floats ya boat. For me, I love being married. I adore being a wife. And I love having a husband. Regardless of what today’s generation and society may say about it. I truly feel if I could read a lot of womens thoughts about marriage, they feel exactly how I feel about it too. But they rather bash something they aspire to be in my eyes. They out here on a search for a King, and ain’t fit to be a Queen on any level. And for the women who have that “niggas ain’t (bleep)” attitude, ask yourself could you date yourself? Why would a King want bacteria. That’s exactly how you acting like a dog on germ. Just spreading yourself around. Ewww!!
Anywho, living in a society where “side chicks” is acceptable and cool is quit pathetic to me. And for women to boast and brag about it like the wife is stupid is ridiculous. I meeeaaan, that’s the best you can do? You can’t even get a man that isn’t someone else’s. I don’t know if I trip more of the fact that cheating is considered “okay” or the fact that the “side chicks” think the wife is part of the problem.
*Jeopardy music*
Some (lets make that clear) women demand sooooo much respect from a man, but have none for themselves! Do I think some men (and I said some, because EVERY man isn’t out here interested in other woman, breast out, and thirsty dehydrated woman.) should have more morals and respect? Yes I do! However, these women who spread themselves, and I do mean that figuratively and literally is shameful to me. Your so easy. I really do feel sorry for you. I’m curious to know what makes you want to, to just go for whatever. I don’t know if anyone has told you, but that’s exactly what you’re doing. You will get treated exactly how you allow a man to treat you. And if being a “side chick” is okay for you, then I don’t know what to say honeslty. I just pray that the good Lord Jesus continues to spare you until you come to your senses. Regardless of how much money is spent on you, you’re not the lucky one. Me personally, I can’t be bought. Money doesn’t make me cum. I pray the spirit of common sense comes down on you and you take that money and get you a Sunday best outfit and hit up the alter, and if don’t believe in the good Lord, Jesus Christ, then I reckon you need to look through the yellow pages for a counselor.
Contrary to what you may believe, when a man marries a woman, a woman who bares his children, a woman who he has build finicially with, etc… is not going to leave her for her. Meaning, it’s very often that a man leaves his wife for a woman he meets and soon sexes in a hotel room and spends a couple of hours with a few days a week. News flash, no matter how much money he spends on you, you’re stupid, not the wife!! I bet he will pay you to keep your mouth shut too huh? Question?! Why is the wife the problem anyways? Why do you label her as stupid? Why? Because what? Because she won’t leave her husband? Buuuut ummm you’re not stupid in your mind for not leaving her husband alone either? What did she do to you? Marry “your man?” Maybe because “your man” talks about his wife in a degrading way to you right? God knwos what he’d say about you if the wife ever found out though. I’m Just Saying…
I guarantee you that “your mans” wife knows nothing about you? “Jodi my Jodi.” As dumb as it may sound, “I’m out here telling these hoes the truth, I lie to you because I care about your feelings.” I meeeaaaan if I cheated on my husband (AND NO DUMMY I AINT CHEATING AND AINT THINKING ABOUT IT EITHER.) I wouldn’t come home and tell him over turkey burgers and baked french fries, “Hey baby I slept with Jimmy John today, how was your day?” But would the other guy know? Of course! Because Jimmy John needs to know his boundaries. Learn your roll, play it! Think about it. Get of your hussy horse for a minute and think about it. Even before I got married this has always been a thought in my mind. I know people make mistakes. People regret doing somethings maybe at a certain age and time in their lives. BUT when you boast and brag about something as sick as sleeping with someones husband/wife and acting as if the wife/husband is stupid, I’m here to tell you you have a problem! I’m not sure if you have daddy issues or what, but you ain’t working with a full deck of cards honey bunny. But I pray to God you’re not raising your kids in the reflection of yourself. Then we will have more hussies running around talkin loud and saying absolutely nothing. I mean do you want your son to see his mother with a man that’s in and out because he can’t stay past a certain hour because he has to be back home at a certain time? Is that cool with you? And men are you flattered to cheat and then try and raise your son to be half the man your not! Lord Jesus please be a fence if you just happen to have a daughter! Give her a chance. Don’t lead her astray. Because from nothing comes nothing. And it’s not cool, you’re not slaying, and you definitely aint on fleek. You’re a settler! Question? Are husbands like a turn on or something? Because if it happened to you how would you feel? What would you do?
This blog post was inspired by and “Love and Hip Hop” episode. Now I watch reality TV for pure entertaininent. But at this point it’s just pur-deeee stupid! Just outrageous! When a female can part her lips and say, “I didn’t make the vows, he did, that’s the wife’s problem.” Sooooo you’re not part of the problem? I swear I must have skipped the dummy class in school. I’m very sure that the wife is aware that her husband made vows, buuuut ummm you don’t see you as a problem? What morally vows did you make to yourself? Just as a person, a woman, and as a mother, for most women. Lord have mercy! (And I really mean that.) Who is your momma? NEVER MIND. Maybe you get your actions from her. Geez! It’s like an endless cycle! I’m trying to figure out how you feel like the wife is in the way though? I’m sooo stuck on that. I tell ya. I pray you get it together or I reckon you fitting to be old and still humping husbands. I’ve heard soooo many stories about women messing with other women men folk and their logic and reasoning is just sorry. I’ve heard horror stories from many different women of many different ages. And I just listen and think to myself, this situation you chose to partake in, over and over and over again is bigger than you. What’s the root of the problem? Because there is no way possible that if it happened to you you would be okay with it. You wouldnt justify the other womans reasons if it happened to you. And we all know the people who ditch it can not take it. The “weak” always come out strong. And if it has happened to you, then why inflict that pain on someone else when you know how it feels?
People are truly aspiring to be these type of women. And then have the nerve to have sex, get pregnant, and raise a child with your pathetic thought process. This is a problem. FOR REAL!!
“I truly miss the days when side chicks and cheating was not glorified.”
– Toya Wright.
No, cheating husbands and cheating wives didn’t just start a year ago. I know this. But I’m very positive that years and years ago this boasting and posting about it was not into play. Men who cheated or woman who cheated would roll over and die before they exposed themselves so freely. And the settler knew to keep her mouth shut or she’d probably get jumped by “her man” and the wife for getting out of pocket.
God don’t like ugly baby, no matter how good you think you may look. Be careful what you do in life. Just like a bullet doesn’t have a name on it, neither does karma. And what doesn’t hurt you, hurts the ones you love the most. And for most, it could be your children. The devil doesn’t play fair, but God doesn’t either when you know better and refuse to do better. Comments like, “your man, my man, our man.” Will get you no where fast, and when you call on Jesus you may just be a day late and a dollar short. You can’t do dirt forever and think you will continually get glorified for it. And when your world comes tumbling down in which ever way karma seems fit to suit you, don’t try and take it back. That goes for you and the cheater. The same people that rooted you on are only going to post about it and keep it moving. Yes I’m aware that mistakes happen in life, I understand that. But learn from them, don’t repeat them! At that point it’s no longer a mistake!
Get you some help, because you’re helpless. You’d think some people would learn there lessons from the crittors crawling between their legs. Literally! But that still isn’t enough. The messing that keeps on messing. But I guess you didn’t get the real memo when they said, “sharing is caring.” It’s just really said how families are ruined, and hearts are prayed on and played with and people make jokes about it like it’s cool. It’s a problem. Side chicks have became a trend. People laugh about it, rap about it, and talk about it like the hit movie coming out in theaters next Friday. This is not okay!
What he will do with you, he will do to you. You’re not special by far. Not by any means possibly. You’re giving yourself waaay too much credit.
I will drown a cup of water for my daughter. But for the woman who willingly sleeps with married men, and boast and brag about her actions are teaching your daughters and sons unknowingly nothingness, to take the same steps that you’re taking. Lead by example. Kill the whole, “do as I say, not as I do.”!Your raising children not pets. Do you expect a table to turn into a chair? Soooo why do you expect her husband to fully be your man, or potientally one day be your husband. And if you’re the women who isn’t concerned with no relationship with “your man” than you’re more pathetic than I thought. You set no goals for yourself. Not even in an immoral tragedy! I know that sounds crazy, but I mean really. What are you doing?! Do you love yourself. Do you even like yourself chile? Or do you just like the fact that someone else’s man fills you up? Mentally, emotionally, and physically? I mean just help me understand! I guarantee you when the mess hits the fan he will go running, and fast! Listen women, if you can’t fit in the box don’t squeeze yourself in! Stop making a mockery of marriage!!!! No you didn’t make vows, no you didn’t marry her, no she’s not your responsibility! But you should be a responsibility to yourself and for yourself. You may not have robbed the bank but you drive the get away car, which makes you just as guilty. To me, women like you degrade something you wish to be! I really feel sorry for you! It’s sad. You’re sad! To most people you’re and unreachable itch. You just don’t get it. If it were you, you’d be hurt, mad, confused etc. Yet you can do it with no guilt and no shame.
Some people cheat because they’re just down right trifiling. Some people cheat because they’re bored. Some people cheat because they feel as if their partner is not giving them the amount of attention they feel as if they deserve, some people are just not happy. The best analogy I can use to get my point across is, you’re like a spare tire to a flat. And who rides around with a donut forever? All I have to say is, don’t flatter yourself. It’s really beneath you. There are two different kinds of women in the world, those that need, and those that want.
Remember, God puts up with sin to show you His grace and mercy.
“Always remember that King is a sign, but Queen is a symbol.”
-Queen Latifah
Get you some respect, own your bull crap. Stop justifying his disloyalty to his wife for your actions. Parasite.
I’m Just Saying….