WoW! Wow! Finally!! We are officially and finally counting down the months and not the years!!!!! I am literally screaming right now with excitement. Those who know…know! This is an amazing feeling. It’s like a relief. Or like a weight being lifted off of my shoulders, and Robs! Probably more so Rob. *Hahaha* He’s probably either speechless or has ALOT to say! I can’t speak for him, but I can give you some pointers and share with you from the wifes perspective! I honestly love my life. God has been good to me! Truly, truly been good to me. I am so proud to travel this world with my handsome, intelligent husband, along side with our baby gal, Miss Naomi. *Thats my girl* Naomi and me are so proud of Dada! We really are! Not only am I proud of him but I’m proud of us!! We survived this recruiting duty. Not always with flying colors! But with colors so hey! I’m proud! I was told if you leave recruiting duty still married you’ve done good. I was also told if you leave here happyily married than you’ve won!!! Well, what can I say folks!! We have won! I give God ALL the glory, because it has not always been easy for me or for Rob! We’ve always made a way through respect and love. To me I feel, and my goal is not to offend anyone. You know how some folks only think on a run way street. But anyways, in my opinion wives are the back bone of the Marine Corps. I really do. And that is not taking anything away from anyone or anything, because I am proud of my man. But yes, I do believe that we keep this thang here afloat honey! Ain’t nothing like a heck of a woman, supporting a heck of a man! Rob and me, we’re our own “power couple.” We’re our own “goals.” I want us to be everything I know we can be. I want us to be everything I’ve prayed to God for us to be. I want us to be what God wants us to be. That’s what’s important to me, to us. We’re walking this journey hand in hand, looking not to our left or right. But instead we walk looking forward, following Gods lead. And that right there, is what gets us through.
God is always the reason for the season. And we got flava. I’m just so proud of us. On this duty we became husband and wife. We became parents to the A-MAZ-ING little girl. My heart really goes out to the wives who have been doing this for a long while though. See me, I can’t miss what I didn’t have. I’ve been on base more than enough times with Rob. And of course I’ve lived on base as a child. As a wife I haven’t appearanced a lot of the things that happen outside of recruiting duty. This is all I know. This is my first duty as a wife. It’s been rough, but for the wives who are use to a certain way on base, I’m praying for you! And I’m proud of you!
I won’t lie and say I won’t miss it! For many, many reasons! But I’ll save that for later. *Future blog*
I haven’t forgotten about you fellas! Big ups to you supporting your wives in uniform. That’s what’s up! God Bless you!!!!
Let me just say at times I felt like Rob was married to the Marine Corps and I was just something on the side. Corps wives! Am I wrong!? *Haha* RECRUITING DUTY IS A MONSTA! NOT A MONSTER, BUT A MONSTA!! Long hours! Long days! When my baby comes home from work I’m ready to talk. Sometimes I’m a live wire. That is depending on what the day consisted of, ya know, Naomi. Rob may not be as hype and as full of energy as me. And I had to learn how to be unselfish and understand that. Just like he understand that he needs to be ready for conversation and loud talking some nights. *Hahaha* He too understand that I’m in the house with a baby all day. The gym is not Disney World so…ya know. Our husbands work hard. But so do we! It definitely takes team work, respect, communication, and compromising. Even when your dead tired! For those who think being a stay at home mom is minimum, the best I can tell ya is, less is more! (For you small minded people.)
It bothers me that Rob is so tired when he comes home from work. But he still comes in, plays with Naomi, spends time with me. Those are just a few things that makes me see the man in him. So I take it upon myself to give him quiet time some nights. I’ll let him kick back in his chair and watch ESPN until he fades out. And that’s what makes the woman in me.Then there’s those times when he lets me go out by myself, even if it’s just to Walmart! Hey, I enjoy it! *Mommy life* The best times are when I take a bubble bath alone while reading a page turner novel. See, it’s the little things! Work together. Pour energy into each other. When you’re married you give and take! It’s a must. And it works for me!
My advice to you as a wife in general is to march to the beat of your own drum as a couple. Be in tune with each other. Harmonies with each other. Feel each others rhythm in LOVE & RESPECT!
Tips for Recruiting Duty Wives:
- Always! Always keep God first. Allow Him to be the forefront of your marriage. He will always make a way out of no way! Always! Trust Him and lean on Him. For any and everything! Your strength comes from Him.
- Trust your spouse! Encourage your spouse. Support him/her. Tell them you’re proud of them. Yes, it may be true when they say, “what’s understood doesn’t need to be explained.” BUT, trust me, it’s good to hear sometimes.
- DO NOT! I repeat! DO NOT BE A NAGGING, COMPLAINING WINCH! ugh, its so tasteless!
- Communicate
- Comprimise
- Understand that a lot of times it’s not their fault.
- Be kind
- Be genuine
- Be patient
- Be respectful! After a long, stressful day of work you want your husband to want to come home. Make your house a home, your safe haven for your family.
- Be human! If you’re having a rough day, pray about it, talk about it to a true, honest, friend. And if that friend is a Marine wife, that also makes it better because they can sympathize and empathize with you sincerely! It’s okay to be upset and to be frustrated. It’s okay to talk about it as well with your spouse. You’re suppose too! Always keep in mind though, it’s not what you say but how you say it! It’s okay to have rough days. Just always make sure you have the tools to get through it. Lean on people. We all need each other! Always remember this, you may bend! But you won’t break!
God Bless You! Semper Fi (Always)
Signed, Red Lipstick
*I’m proud of you baby*
I am so happy for you guys! Love you always.