First thing first! Stop being so hard on yourself!
Second, ask yourself, what does this have to do with me?
And third. Why, ask yourself, why? Why am I doing this?
Do you ever realize that maybe you’re too hard on yourself? Like, seriously. I’m talking to myself too. Lord knows! So yeah, I’m really at a point in my life, where I am getting to know me! I’m enjoying it. But it’s also bittersweet. Getting to know yourself, means also being honest with yourself. And ya, there’s some things I would love and like to change about me. But I won’t focus on those things. Because there is also a lot of AMAZING things about me too! By the way, I’ve tried that before. Ya know, focusing on the things that I’m not so good at. Things I once told myself I wasn’t able to do. “I can’t do that.” When you focus on the things you’re not so good at, you tend to water the ‘weakness’ flower, more than you tend to water the ‘strength’ flower. Ya get what I’m saying? Like, once I took the time to focus on the things I am good at, I had no room, no time to focus on the things I don’t like about me so much. And, guess what!? I see growth all around now! Because I poured into the positive and not the negative. Focusing on the down falls of me only made me feel worse! But now that I am focused on the things that I am capable of doing, all the incapable is becoming capable too. I hope you get what I am saying. Gots to think outside the box.
We sometimes feel like were suppose to have it all together by the ages of 25 and 30, etc.
Says who? Says who??!!
Like, seriously! Come on now!
It can take a whole life to get it right. Now, that’s no excuse to wake up each day slacking now! Cause people will hit you quick with the, “Rome wasn’t built in a day.” Or, “I’m only human.” hat are you doing about?? Oka, so. I feel like everyday should be a work in progress. Be productive in growth, but don’t let one day of not figuring it all out, stumble you. ONE OF MY BIGGEST PET PEEVES IS PEOPLE WHO KNOW THEY NEED TO DO BETTER, AND CHOOSE NOT TOO! “That’s how they are.” “Their old girl, they ain’t gone change.” Clears throat* See, folks like that will have to deal with me on my terms then, cause that’s too much for me. Grow daily. Make daily resolutions, not yearly. Ya feel me! So, yeah.
Ya know! People do things for other people more than they’ll ever do it for themselves first! I’ve been that girl too.
I mean, really! Think about it!
For one, if you had to pay for social media, would you even have it? I know I wouldn’t. We’ll maybe for my blog! But I can tell you straight up, that if I didn’t have this blog, I would have not one drop of an ounce of any type of social media. NONE!! I’m at the point in my life, where my phone number would speak volumes! Like, if you have my number, you know what it is, and if you don’t, then you know what it is then too. I wouldn’t have it to keep up with people as far as contact wise. Cause let me tell you, when it comes to anything that is important, social media finds out last. Those who truly matter, find out by phone.
Social media is a lot of peoples lives! Say it ain’t so! Meanwhile, I’m scrolling Pinterest! I’ve shared my social media stories, so yeah. If it doesn’t have anything to do with RedLipstickandCammies.com then, ya know, I ain’t looking for and scrolling at nothing.
So many people get caught up in how many likes they get on a video, and pictures, meanwhile, they don’t even like themselves! See, now that is a problem. Folks have thousands of followers, but the credit score isn’t half a band. So, what are people really living for these days?
I’ve done so much in my life that was not for me at all! Like, I would have stuff, buy stuff to keep up with the trend! Like, all them heels in my closet. For what? I ain’t even a heel chick. I love sneakers. All kinds. Name brand, or not even name brand at all. I’m the type of woman who will have a beat face, bomb dress, and some J’s on my feet walking down the aisle on my wedding day. Oh, or the bomb red Converse, so dope! I like heels, and yes I do wear them. But, I rarely go in Aldo for heels, I’m Just Saying.
Side bar though! I do love putting on heels for a cute date with the husbae! I also like wearing heels, and still being able to look up at my man. Love it. But who said that date night only consisted of wearing heels?
Who??!!
Whooooo??
But back in the day, everyone around me wore heels. So, I’m sure you can guess why I have soooo many pairs of heels that I have only wore once, maybe twice. I have a pair of black Jessica Simpson heels that are my go to. Jeans, dresses, slacks, whatever. Other than that. The others are just chilling, in the closet, sitting pretty, and that’s all! And for real, for real, I love me some red bottoms. Always have. Their so chic and sexy right? You can wear them with anything and look sexy. But for real, me being smart, is me getting some red bottom boots, or flats. Or else money will just look good sitting in the closet. Ya feel me? Like, for what? What am I going to do? Get a pair of red bottom heels, and post them on Instagram, and Snapchat, and then never wear them. Once or twice, three times maybe. Like, yeah, I would wear them, but not even close to how I would wear some red bottom boots, or flats.
LolaShoetique takes all my money. Like, I love them. And I just found out that the store is a couple of hours from me.
Who!!
I cannot wait until I bless that store with my presence, and they bless me with some shoe. Honey!! Their heels are so sick. Heck, their shoes period are sick. SIIIICCCK! I mean, they look so good that you could walk around with a Hazardous bag on and a pair of them heels and look like something coming down the red carpet. I ain’t lying. But! I ain’t buying any of their heels. Now, let me go back. I actually did buy a pair of heels from them, for the Marine Corps Ball. The first pair of shoes I ever ordered from them. I love my shoes. But after that, I haven’t got a single sexy pair of heels from them. Because heels aren’t my every day life. Heels aren’t even my jaa-zaaam! That’s why I have like 12 pair in the closet, and maybe 7 pairs that haven’t even worn.
I ain’t doing this anymore! Spending money on heels, just to say I have them. I wear heels, I think they’re sexy, but ya know what, I ain’t really a thorough bread heel chick.
I just ain’t.
And I’m cool with that, shoot. I should have been cool with it in the first place, shoot. I wonder if I can take some of those heels back and get some sneakers!
Don’t think I can’t step out now. Don’t be fooled! Heels or sneakers.
See, it’s the little, catty things that we tend to not see at times about ourselves. Like, I was dead set on getting the IPhone X before it even was released! I was like, “Oh, got to have that.” But what the heck is wrong with this 6s Plus I got? Nothing! Not a dog on thing! I would be getting the IPhone X just to say I have it. Seriously. I mean, ain’t no other way to put it. I ain’t doing that mess anymore. I done followed other folks, I done kept up with trends, I done even listened to people that I didn’t even want to listen to, just because.
Chi! Please!
These days all I hear is me! Straight up!
Like, for real though. Before you strive for something, want something, ask for something, pray, wish, or hope for something, ask yourself, why? Like, why? Why do I want this? Is this for me, or other people? Is this my style, my thang, or am I following a trend? Am I keeping up? It doesn’t have to be anything deep or profound! Look at me, I’m telling you about shoes and a dog on IPhone X.
How well do you really know yourself. Are you in denial about your self-awareness? Or you lack that too?
I’m Just Saying…
Inspiration for the day??